Healthy Self Esteem – It's Not All In The Mind


Complex Condition

Healthy self esteem germinates in the relationship formed between a newborn and parents. His or her mental world growing and expanding incrementally, as siblings, if any, and others, enter. Over time creating interactions and experiences unique to that individual.

If we are treated with respect from the earliest age healthy self esteem is placed on the soundest of footings

It is these early impressions on one's mind that constructs our sense and perception of our self worth that remains with us. Unless, or, until, one consciously and purposely influences it.

  • If we are treated with respect from the earliest age
  • Given appropriate attention and discipline 
  • Valued as moral, independent, deserving, entities
  • Provided with unlimited scope to cultivate our potential in our own way
  • Being gently guided, supported, and encouraged, by wise mentors, without meddlesome interference

Then:

Healthy self esteem is placed on the soundest of footings.

If we are deprived of some, or all of this soul nourishing nurture, we are left to mentally flounder, and struggle with a confusing sense of lack of importance and significance.

Leaving us wide open to any influence that will fill the void.


Nature And Nurture

In the same manner that we are genetically a product of Humanities collective past, what we have to work with now, in the present, are the effects of our environment since birth.

Whether beneficial or detrimental, these effects on our psyche must be taken into account when building high self esteem.

Too often we allow our self esteem to hinge on some attribute or other. Then when that attribute suffers a setback, as often happens, so too does our sense of worth.

If, however, I behave immorally, then my conscience will intervene and my healthy self esteem can take a deserved hit. And stay that way until I make amends.

This is the sensation of guilt. And is what a well adjusted person suffers when one transgresses the bounds of decency. This is as it should be.


Healthy Self Esteem Builder

Genuinely high Self Esteem is knowing and believing that you are a worthy Human Being.

To build and sustain healthy self esteem positive moral thinking is not an option

This knowledge and belief is now manifest in, and confirmed by, your exemplary conduct.

You are worthy not because you are a wizard rocket scientist. You are both a wizard rocket scientist - and a worthy Human Being.

To build and sustain healthy self esteem, positive moral thinking is not an option. We are only as Good as our mindset, so . . .

Consistent and coherent Positive moral reasoning is an essential component of one's healthy thinking process. Forming the foundation stone of a positive mindset.

Every thought one thinks, every action one takes, either bolsters or detracts from this mindset.

As demanding as volatile Human relationships are, doing the right moral thing exalts one's self image in our own eyes. And the eyes of observers. And is the most effective of ways to boost one's self esteem. Even in the absence of immediate observers. However, not just even . . .

Especially, in the absence of immediate observers. We must be able to live foremost, with ourselves.


Low Self Esteem Equates To Self Doubt

Low self esteem is a common problem in every society on the Planet. A sad condition that can carry the burden of responsibility for much of Humanities woes. Avoidable, self inflicted woes.

When we arouse and elevate our innate Sense Of Value of being Human, we automatically resolve the root cause of those woes. Easier said than done. But to this end we can all play an equal part. A person of adequate self esteem seeks an equitable solution to every problem.

Low self esteem sufferers paradoxically seek solace in recrimination and revenge.

 If not established purposely in our formative years, each and every one of us must bear responsibility for restructuring our understanding of what being worthy means.

As huge a problem as it is, the only Self Esteem we have total direction over is our own.

Nevertheless, we can and should animate others with kind encouraging words and deeds. Taking a genuine interest in them and what occupies their mind.

Helping others when they are ready to help themselves holds the power to change society. For the better.


Individual Decision

Ultimately though, it is an individual decision how each of us view and respond to our environment. The perception generated at any given moment depends solely on ones knowledge and understanding of how this response influences our actions.

A person of adequate self esteem seeks an equitable solution to every problem

If I allow myself to suffer from deficient self esteem, a warped response to my environment can cripple and devitalize my mind. Undermine my ability to think clearly. Destroy my ability to innovate . . .

And freeze me in immobility.

Or, conversely, it can initiate and perpetuate an abject cycle of obstruction. Often leading to violent, destructive rebellion.

Negative feelings, originating in negative thought, are a source of wretched unhappiness that impact sharply on healthy self esteem to the point where an individual's self image is totally distorted.


Clarity Of  Mind

On the other hand, by carefully cultivating and maintaining a positive self image, particularly in the face of opposition and obstacles, no matter the source, you will not only retain your clarity of thought, but it will be enhanced.

Enhanced thought manifests itself in equitable solutions to problems and bolstered self esteem. Creating a self sustaining cycle.

Clearly a magnificent demonstration of applied intelligence.


Priceless Pay-off

Any person who understands, sustains, and maintains, an adequate sense of self worth lives a fulfilling life and is an indispensable asset to a liberal, functional society. He or she is the essence of true freedom.

This heightened perception of responsibility is inherent in comprehending and practicing worthiness.

When worthiness is combined with a working knowledge of the principles of Personal Development, and practiced by the majority in any Nation, it not only eliminates the need for authoritarian rule, but it also eliminates the opportunity for any would be tyrant or despot to secure power. By any means.

Snuffing such an opportunity out, like a candle in the wind. Achieving a non-violent, righteous ascendency of true freedom. From the unbeatable combination of a healthy self esteem and the precision force of moral thinking.

Healthy Self Esteem Rocks!

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We are all the same - except for one darn thing - we are all different

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